Being in the middle of a conflict can be one of life's most frustrating places. When we find ourselves there, it's common to feel victimized because one or both warring parties put us there. But, is that really true? In reality, if we were to choose a side, we would quickly find ourselves safely out of the center of the battle. Therefore, I would argue we are in the middle because that's where we choose to be. But, why?
The simple answer is because we care. Choosing to be in the middle often is an act of love and compassion. It's an outward expression of how you feel about each of the people in conflict. In that uncomfortable place, we drive a stake in the ground and say regardless of the hurtful things happening, I want what's best for everyone involved.
Did you know that in the Old Testament the "promised land" that God gave to his people was smack dab in the middle of the Eastern world? It would be very common for travelers to have to pass through that area to get wherever they wanted to go. What better place for God to put the people he wanted to be a "light for the world" then right in the middle of everything.
When people's eyes are transfixed on conflict, the only place the light of peace can be seen is right in the cross hairs. If we have guts to stand there with an authentic spirit of love and acceptance, we may indeed offer a light of hope.
If you choose to be in the middle, own the decision. If you are there for genuine loving reasons, stand your ground. You will not have to stand alone. However, know if one or both sides decide to arm themselves with anger or self indulgence, they may not see your intentions and you could become collateral damage. It's rarely easy in the middle. It's a place you will only find the bold or the foolish. If you find yourself there, which will you be?